I would only be worried in that the groups wouldn't mix well. For instance, my co-workers are all introverted mofos that don't even take vacations. Most bizarre set of people I have ever met. Good people, but just bizarre. Guess it is the field (IT) that I work in. But anyone else, as long as I thought people would get along, I would have no worries about getting them together. Expands people's horizons. But when I talked about compartmentalization, I mean "I have two wives, and neither know about the other" type of severe and debilitating compartmentalization.
I compartmentalize, and there are some I don't mind overlapping, but others I will at all costs keep from overlapping.
Is it a "I know they will not get along" or "I really don't want this group to know I mingle with this other group" type thing?
More of awkwardness. About the only time the groups really mixed together was my 30th bday party, and then it was a carefully selected group. What gets really weird, especially in the age of social media, is when you realize someone from Group A is friends with someone from Group G and you can't figure out how in the world it's possible.
I have enough family members I wonder if they are neo-Nazis, much less guys who willingly show off their copy of Mein Kempf.
Please. As if I really have one out for everyone to see. You'd feel fine and perfectly comfortable. It's in the attic, anyway.
If you didn't have it out and displayed, it'd make me uncomfortable, but only because I don't like surprises.
My role in each groups of friends is different. I'd have an identity crisis if they all got together.
Since the whole world lives in Nashville now this results in me seeing Auburn and Knoxville randomly mix all the time.
I don't like groups to mingle together, and for several reasons: 1. I do not want to be the "hub" that is the link between multiple groups, because I won't think / attempt / give enough of a shit to keep them all engaged and entertained. Or to be introduced. It's difficult enough with my own social awkwardness, much less the pressure of everyone else's, and 2. I have incredibly diverse tastes in how I spend my time, and I can't find any one group to do all things with - and what one group might love (say, my wife's family, riding horses in 100 degree heat) all other groups may hate it (all of you, my co-workers, many of my friends, etc.). I detest doing shit that I hate, and really make an honest effort to expect or require the same of others. PSA: If you schedule anything on a Saturday afternoon - wedding, kid's birthday party, etc. - just know that I think that you're a giant [penis] for having wasted the entirety of everyone's day. And go ahead and shove that invite directly up your ass, because I am not coming, and so as to save us both the awkward encounter, later, when I no-showed. Oh, and there are like 15 people on earth whose wedding / funeral / birthday / graduation that I will attend, and I've been known to offer that from the very outset at the earliest possible opportunity, when first meeting new people. 3. Also, while I am neither as high-brow nor as white trash as some groups believe or assume me to be, I can definitely be both, and it makes me uncomfortable to share one side with the other. 4. I am an INCREDIBLY private person, by nature. INCREDIBLY. I don't believe in making every acquaintance a friend and in saying everything I think to everyone. Compartmentalization helps with all of this - and both for myself and the other groups around me.
if I enter a party or home and don't have to go #2 within 3 minutes, it means i'm not excited and we should probably just leave and save the time.
I compartmentalize as well... Work friends, work peers, personal friends in groups a, b, c.. Occasionally I'll have someone that I move from one group to another... For example, a work friend moves on and they end up on the personal friend list... I can count on 1 hand however how many have made the jump. I don't like to mix groups either... Although I have some groups more compatable with others than others are. I think this might be normal... My wife does the same thing and doesn't mix groups.
