But, if you're hell bent on putting up with your future mother in law, take her to the place you first met and ask her to marry you.
This. Marriage is a bad deal for guys.when women are GF's they're cool, compliant and willing to do whatever... Once they become wives they know they got you by the short hairs....
Took my wife on a weekend retreat and popped the question. Most important part for me was making sure I got her parents permission.
That was my tactic. Tricked her with a promise of a very minor weekend that actually ended up being a big time, very classy vacation. Also got one of her friends to help me pick out the ring. These chicks have some serious opinions on them, but wouldn't feel comfortable telling you the jewelry you spent thousands on is ugly as hell.
Yes. I tried like hell to get my wife to the go to the court house to get married and spend the wedding money on a kick ass honeymoon. She wasn't having it.
My wife dropped subtle hints at what ring she wanted. We were at the mall one evening, she went into a jewelry store to look around, pointed out a ring and said "When I get married, I want a ring that looks like that". I went back the next night and bought it.
My father-in-law was a full blown alcoholic at the time, so we had an alcohol free wedding. Not much of a party.
My wife basically picked her ring out. Had I did it I would have bought her the cut she least liked. Dodged a bullet there.
